5 Steps to a Better Marriage – Together We Win!
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God ALL things are possible.” Mathew 19:26
“All things are possible….” Yes, even in your marriage. Thank God for your marriage everyday. You are blessed to have your spouse. Regardless of the conflicts you face, the trials, and the challenges, remember, marriage is a blessing.
Never ever take your marriage for granted. Always pray for protection, especially from our own flesh and selfish ways.
1. Selfishness in Marriage
Selfishness has been described as one of the major enemies of married love and of love within the family. Selfish behaviors can have a negative impact on marriage. Maintaining harmony in marriage has been difficult since Adam and Eve. Marriage is a lifestyle of selfless giving. The perfect marriage is two servants in love.
2. Letting Go
I realize it is sometimes difficult to let go of the past. You tend to remember the things your spouse have done to cause you hurt, and it often offends you in some way. It’s important that you allow God to help you to move on and forgive. Don’t hold on to offenses anymore. Marriage is not a competition or a contest. So we should never keep score. Clear your mind and and allow Jesus to heal your wounds.
3. Your Own Way
You win in marriage by losing the selfish desire to get your way. Talk and work together instead of fighting. “We are not a team because we work together. We are a team because we respect each other and care for each other.” ~@ValaAfshar #teamwork.
4. Allow God
Allow God to cause your marriage to be of integrity, wisdom and success. Surround yourself with Godly influences men and women who have a passion for God and His presence. But remember outsiders should never know when your marriage is in pieces. Talk about problems even though it may get heated. When the conversation starts becoming bitter and verbally abusive: STOP! Take a break, maybe about half an hour. But start talking about it again. Until the situation is resolved.
Start Building
Start building and stop tearing down. And since you’re building, build a relationship:
R – Relying on God’s Word
E – Encouraging and building each other up
L – Long Lasting
A – Always be patient for God is writing your love story.
T – Telling them they are beautiful as they are
I – I trust in both God and you
O – One that is Christ Centered
N – Never lead each other astray from what is important
S – Seeking God first
H – Humble yourself before everyone
I – I am committed to loving you as Jesus loved you
P – Pray for each other
6. Ask God
Ask God to cause you to see the good in each other. And when you pray, be wise to the enemy’s schemes. Bind the enemy in Jesus name, allow the Holy Spirit to cover you and anoint your marriage. Allow compassion, love and Grace motivate your every action in Jesus name!